Wednesday, April 9, 2008


Ok, a little clarification from Tony's last post. Since my Mom made a comment saying that it might come across the wrong way and since Andie kind of felt like we were talking about it goes...

With the whole wedding thing, we realize and completely understand why there are some people who can't make it. Some of my relatives have health issues preventing them from traveling or don't have the finances right now or even have to work on the particular weekend that our wedding is on. By no means do we feel like they don't want to be at our wedding though. I know it's very, very disappointing to my grandparents because they won't be able to come. My grandma tells me every time I talk to her, and I wish they were able to come. But they can't. It's not an easy decision, but that's how things work sometimes. You just do what you have to do.

For some people, it's not easy for them to afford to come to the wedding, but they want to find a way to make it work. We are so happy that those people are willing to do that and are so thankful that they want to be there on our special day. We greatly appreciate the sacrifices that they have to make, and one day I'm sure we will be faced with something similar.

I don't really want to say too much about who Tony was specifically talking about because I don't know if they read the blog and I don't want to offend. It wasn't meant to come off like, if you don't come to our wedding then forget you and we're better off. We really do not feel that way at all. It wasn't meant to be a general comment, more specific to a certain situation. Please don't take that the wrong way because we honestly completely understand why some people are not able to attend our wedding and for most it's not that they don't want to be there. I hope that helps explain where Tony was coming from and how I feel about this as well.


Carol said...

Aaahh...the perils of online discussion. For those unable to attend the wedding for whatever reason, we will be sure to have plenty of pics available!!

afoos said...

Internet is a really difficult way of communication because sometimes the speed at which we write often inhibits the right words from being said and then we don't think about what we right and then people misunderstand what we say. I know on my blog, I get that all the time.

I never thought your post was aimed towards me in particular but I do know that we struggled a lot last weekend coming up with if we should all come or not and I would hate to think that you would take it the wrong way, that it was aimed against you that we couldn't all come or that we didn't want to be there. We got that solved, though, and it isn't an issue anymore. But, I know that a lot of people couldn't make it to my wedding for various reasons and at first it is upsetting and you think that they aren't making an effort but as life goes on, you start to understand with kids, with health, with money that there are other things that can get in the way of being able to do the things you want.

afoos said...

I spelled "write" , "right"! Anyway, that's another thing I've learned about blogging, it shouldn't be used as a tool to say something to someone because it can be taken the wrong way by others. It's so tempting to get a message across to use the blog but I've learned from a lot of my own posts like that, that it can create way bigger problems that are better solved by communication directly with the person.

Pat & Debbie said...

Ditto to Carol's comment !!

Pat & Debbie

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